Why would a parent keep every object their child ever made? Every finger painting and stick-figure drawing? Every lopsided clay pot and every out-of-focus photograph? For many reasons I guess – nostalgia, affection. But for some it may be that in their most subconscious (or not so subconscious) minds they believe their child is special – so special that everything they create will be an artifact to their eventual greatness. Every page your child writes will be anthologized and studied, for what are the building blocks of genius?
Where should a person dream too big, if not in their wishes for their child?
Am I setting myself up for disaster (emotionally speaking) when I have these conceptions? I say conceptions, as opposed to expectations, because it is not necessarily what I expect, but rather, what I hope for.
We’re not rich, but children of far lesser means have grown to be people who’ve changed the world. Abraham Lincoln comes to mind.
When I was 9, I attended Hebrew school, mostly in preparation for my bar mitzvah. (I don’t know at what age a precocious child becomes an obnoxious kid, but I was that kid.) We were discussing some point or other, and I was speaking on behalf of the non-literal interpretation of the old testament (though I obviously never would have put it that way).
This line of discussion led to where this line of inquiry can only lead - to the question of the existence of God at all.
I remember my rabbi saying, well, ultimately it’s a question of faith (and I respected his candor towards a kid he was very likely annoyed by). He added, you must remember that Moses also questioned his faith.
I said, you just compared me to maybe the most important person in the bible…I’m not Moses, I’m just a twelve year old boy (I think he appreciated my candor).
Yes, he said. But Moses was just a twelve-year boy once also. He wasn’t born “Moses.” He was born the son of slaves and grew to become the most revered man in Judaism.
That’s a pretty cool story.
Wednesday, October 04, 2006
Obviously, we talked about what Penny would do about her last name after we were married. I said that once we were married that she would be my bitch and would have to do everything I said.
Actually. that's not true at all.
I didn't have a preference one way or another. I said she could keep her name, hyphenate, we could both hyphenate...it doesn't really matter to me (...a Rajczyk by any other name...).
She likes my last name. And, phonically, she likes the way our kids names' will sound. Riley (Kate) Rajczyk. It looks cool and rolls out easily...Riley Rajczyk. Maybe she's a reporter ("this is Riley Rajczyk, signing off"), or maybe a politician. I can't help but see shortstop; agile, quick, can make the deep throw from the left-field grass look easy. ("Riley Rajczyk moves to her left, backhands the ball....and makes a spectacular throw from deeeep in the hole at short.") (Call me crazy.)
And it works with both of the boys names we like: Jack and Miles.
Jack Rajczyk. How many people do you know whose first and last names end with the letter K?
Jack Rajczyk....it sounds like a superhero's mild mannered (yet talented and stunning) alter ego. I like that hard consonant at the end of each name - "Hi, I'm jacK raczyK. Astronaut." His friends will probably call him JR. Maybe Junior (though, frankly, I hope not.)
Miles Rajczyk. That would be his mellower (but equally as talented) brother. It's not possible for a guy named Miles not to be cool. I love all the soft consonants leading up to the finalistic K: MMMM LLLLL SS, RRR SSSS K. It's hard not to imagine Miles as a musician (for obvious reasons) or a writer; introspective (like me), mellow (not like me).
Not that I've been thinking about that sort of thing.
Actually. that's not true at all.
I didn't have a preference one way or another. I said she could keep her name, hyphenate, we could both hyphenate...it doesn't really matter to me (...a Rajczyk by any other name...).
She likes my last name. And, phonically, she likes the way our kids names' will sound. Riley (Kate) Rajczyk. It looks cool and rolls out easily...Riley Rajczyk. Maybe she's a reporter ("this is Riley Rajczyk, signing off"), or maybe a politician. I can't help but see shortstop; agile, quick, can make the deep throw from the left-field grass look easy. ("Riley Rajczyk moves to her left, backhands the ball....and makes a spectacular throw from deeeep in the hole at short.") (Call me crazy.)
And it works with both of the boys names we like: Jack and Miles.
Jack Rajczyk. How many people do you know whose first and last names end with the letter K?
Jack Rajczyk....it sounds like a superhero's mild mannered (yet talented and stunning) alter ego. I like that hard consonant at the end of each name - "Hi, I'm jacK raczyK. Astronaut." His friends will probably call him JR. Maybe Junior (though, frankly, I hope not.)
Miles Rajczyk. That would be his mellower (but equally as talented) brother. It's not possible for a guy named Miles not to be cool. I love all the soft consonants leading up to the finalistic K: MMMM LLLLL SS, RRR SSSS K. It's hard not to imagine Miles as a musician (for obvious reasons) or a writer; introspective (like me), mellow (not like me).
Not that I've been thinking about that sort of thing.
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
We wanted our wedding to be as unique as possible, so instead of numbered cards on the guests' tables we decided it would be funny to use different cow breeds. We were going to go with real cows like Angus or Guernsey. But Penny (and Gary Larson) took it to the next level.
Monday, August 14, 2006
Thursday, August 03, 2006
Tuesday, July 04, 2006
Yesterday was our one-month anniversary. 30 days of marital bliss.
I’ve no doubt that after about a year or so we’ll stop counting the months (like you do with kids). But for the next 11 months, the third day will be another “anniversary,” another excuse to look back (and forward), and to be grateful.
I’ve no doubt that after about a year or so we’ll stop counting the months (like you do with kids). But for the next 11 months, the third day will be another “anniversary,” another excuse to look back (and forward), and to be grateful.
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